I often hear people saying that nowadays we have become very selfish and pure love is no more in existence in our interpersonal relations. May I ask whether there had been pure love any time in the world? Living in this material world, any love is impossible without a tincture of selfish material desire associated with it.
Say, you are hungry now. Do you think any amount of your platonic love with a food item would lead you anywhere? You need to take it internally as well. Because it satisfied your hunger, it starts assuming value in your life. You would then love it and take care of it. In case you go for indiscriminate exploitation of its existing sources unmindful of its continued availability in your surroundings, you are only thereby axing your own security. Thus, to love something is to use it and at the same time be articulate in showing concerns both in thoughts and actions for its well-being and welfare.
It follows from the above that if you see anybody loving something or even somebody, be sure that he/ she is also fulfilling some material interests or deriving some practical values in that relation. In other words, material interests are ingrained in every love and without the former, there cannot be any love or at least so in our earthly existence in this physical form.
Given the above fact of the world, if people still say that ‘pure love’ is missing now, perhaps they mean thereby, as I presume, that the proportion of practical considerations for self in every transaction one engages with others in a relation has of late far exceeded the desired limit.
Take the case of gold. Because it is almost liquid in its purest state, you cannot make ornaments out of pure gold. You need to first contaminate it with some base matter like copper or silver and only then can you use this alloy for making the desired ornaments. However, you have to take care to ensure that the use of the base matter is limited only to the extent, as it is required to serve the purpose. Not that out of greed you increase its proportion to such an extent that the identity of gold is lost and the alloy in question starts exhibiting the properties only of the base matter used.
Likewise, relations are ornaments to life. Without these, life is a lack-lustre existence. When a person acquires adequate relations or his/ her life gets adequately connected with many others’ lives, his/ her personality starts exuding a shinning aura. However, no two individuals can develop an urge to get related with each other unless they perceive a mutual opportunity to satisfy their respective individual material or practical needs from out of that relation. At the same time, each should take care to use it only to the extent, as it is required to sustain his/ her life. If one becomes greedy and tends to use a relation beyond this point, one would appear to be a hard-core selfish individual in one’s interpersonal transactions, and eventually, all relations would shun him/ her.
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LOVE is simply not a simple word, it has lot of meaning and the first and formost among them is if we read it from the last letter, ie EVOL, now what is missing is the beginning two letters, ie VE, now that makes it EVOLVE, love is an evolution ,process, it cannot be defined so easily. Now to talk about love is as good as not 'knowing" IT, since further to LOVE pure love is being discussed. Another one significant aspect of LOVE or rather the other side of the same Word is SACRIFICE and there is no love without SACRIFICE, Further, about MAYA, the comment from the Great Mohapatraji, is again worth thinking over, mulling over, meditating about. Once again to read the word MAYA, from back to front, gives a very good interpretation, ie AYAM, ie "I am", as long as I AM there, MAYA IS THERE! now to begin, i am not there not here! Hari Om!
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Apatya shneha is best form of love which is real and exists in every normal life form.There is no expectation.All others are maya.
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